“Be bold. Be obsessed. Be passionate. So much beauty to be absorbed. Experiences to be embraced. Soul to be expressed. Show up in the world, and keep showing up. Let yourself get high off of life. Surrender to your senses. There’s nothing to worry about. You’ll be more than fine”

“Either you’re the creator or you’re the audience. Either you’re waiting your turn or you’re taking it.

Create the program. Or be programmed.” – Seth Godin

THE GIFT OF FRUSTRATION

What is frustrating you right now? What do you wish would change?

What really hurts?

Frustration is often a reminder that where we are isn’t where we want to be; that we long for a better future for ourselves, our family, our organization, etc.

People often experience frustration about their weight, lack of energy, failed relationships, boring job, lack of knowledge about a topic, etc.

“Never forget: this very moment, we can change our lives.” — Steven Pressfield, The War of Art

No one loves change, but if you are frustrated enough and have had enough, change (or: doing something different) is the only way to move forward.

If you decide to change today for a better future, you are giving FutureYou a gift:

  • The gift of better health
  • The gift of less debt
  • The gift of a better attitude
  • The gift of a deeper friendship
  • The gift of new wisdom

What a beautiful opportunity for self-love: taking care of your future self.

Every decision you make, every behavior you encourage, every thought you cultivate has the opportunity to be a gift to FutureYou. That’s pretty awesome.

If your frustration is overflowing and it’s time to do something different… ask yourself these few questions:

  • What am I frustrated about?
  • Where am I right now?
  • Where do I want to be?
  • Why does pursuing this change matter to me?
  • What factors are within my control?
  • What should I do first?

A WILD AND WONDERFUL 365 DAYS: DIVORCE, LOVE, AND A LAYOFF

Today begins a new career chapter and just recently I realized how full of a year it has been:

My divorce was finalized (and I got a tattoo the same day to remember what I learned in the process).

Established a new home and tried to regain a sense of normalcy.

My grandmother passed away.

Oscar, my son, turned 6 years old.

Photographed Night Beds during a studio visit.

Took a weekend adventure to see my friend Liz in Atlanta.

Saw WELD open and Nashville’s strong community continue to grow.

Started navigating the dating world.

Attended so many Nashville Sounds baseball games with Oscar.

Witnessed two friends successfully adopt their first child.

Drank Soylent for 3 months.

Vacationed with family in Michigan and Iowa.

Gave up navigating the dating world.

Heavily played Tame Impala’s album ‘Currents.’

Oscar started 1st grade.

Read a great interview with Ian MacKaye of Minor Threat/Fugazi/Dischord Records.

Attended my first Plywood Presents conference in Atlanta.

Intentionally began taking more risks, being vulnerable and generous, and staying true to myself.

Started writing.

Adopted an awesome puppy.

Attended a great Men’s Retreat with my church.

Applied to the altMBA program.

Unexpectedly met an amazing woman.

Saw C H R I S O L U X speak at Nashville Creative Mornings.

Was accepted into the altMBA program, January 2016 session.

Saw Sufjan Stevens live in concert for the first time.

Fell in love.

Had a weekend adventure to Atlanta with my love and her kids.

Was laid off from my job of 8 years.

Interviewed for a new job.

Decompressed with family over the holidays.

Introduced Oscar to Star Wars IV, V, and VI.

Started a Moment Calendar, chronicling at least one memory from each day.

Picked up my camera again.

Started altMBA.

Was offered — and accepted — a new job.

And yesterday, January 20, 2016, was my last day at my former employer.

I have been so blessed by the people of Nashville. This city has truly become my home.

To the friends, family, coworkers, acquaintances and strangers who have come alongside me during such a wild and wonderful year — thank you. You have truly given me an endless supply of hope, encouragement and support to see the beauty in each day.

In 2016 I will be stretched and challenged like never before — yet also more intentional, purposeful and fulfilled.

I am both excited and scared, which is giving me an undeniable energy to dance with my fear and tackle the challenges I want to face.

“I have been bent and broken, but — I hope — into a better shape.” ― Charles DickensGreat Expectations

Let’s go.

ARE YOU READY FOR A WILD RIDE?

Last weekend I took a roadtrip with my girlfriend and her two boys. As our trip began I turned to them and said with some enthusiasm…

“Are you ready for a wild ride – a crazy adventure?!? You in?”

They sheepishly responded and eventually agreed that they were on board.

Little did we know, the weekend WAS an adventure.

  • We had too many donuts for lunch.
  • We built an enormous wall at LegoLand with every supersized Lego brick available to us.
  • Everyone attacked me in a surprise (pretend) snowball fight in the hotel room at 7am.
  • I accidentally drained the car battery, allowing us the time to throw a football around and have a scavenger hunt while we waited for a jump.
  • The boys and I raced across the Coca-Cola museum lawn in beautiful, spring-like weather.
  • My girlfriend and I had a beautiful talk while the boys slept on the drive back home.

That weekend we expected an adventure and clearly made one happen. And I learned this important lesson: YOU EXPERIENCE WHAT YOU EXPECT. If I expect my day to be dull, dreary and a disappointment — guess what kind of day it will be? A dull, dreary, not fun day.

“Life is what you make it. Always has been, always will be.” ― Eleanor Roosevelt

I had my share of not fun days this year. My divorce was finalized, time with my son was drastically reduced, and I struggled with feelings of inadequacy and loneliness. I expected hard, not fun days and that’s exactly what I got.

But over the past 3 months my approach to life has shifted. Today, I am ready for an adventure. I worry less when my plans get detoured. I embrace risk. I am more vulnerable with everyone around me. And I am enjoying being myself more and more — striving to live simply, love boldly and do work that matters.

Now I wake up ready for a wild ride, a crazy adventure full of love, challenges, detours, and laughter… and that’s exactly what I’ve experienced.

Let’s see what tomorrow brings.

WHAT I’VE LEARNED IN 20 YEARS OF WORK

I recently realized I’ve been doing this thing called work for 20 years. It started with a snow shovel at the age of 14 and has included roles as a dishwasher, tutor, hotel front desk, video production assistant, director of communications, photographer, and, now, art buyer/producer.

In stints both brief (Panera, one day) and long (Griffin, 8 years and still going), I’ve learned a handful of things on my journey that I’d like to share.

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1) Always carry a pen

You can thank me later.

2) Expect challenges

Your project will never go according to plan. You can bank on it. But when you expect the unexpected you’ll be more prepared when challenging circumstances do occur. The challenges themselves will be less likely to throw you off.

The sooner you can think clearly, the faster you’ll start brainstorming how to overcome those new challenges.

“I always expect unexpected challenges. Boxing is not an easy sport.” — Sugar Ray Leonard

3) Ask how you can help

It’s important to lend your support, energy, and enthusiam to the other people on your team. One of the best ways to show support is to simply ask, “How can I help?”

Questions may need answers or someone might be hungry but on a tight deadline. Go find the answers, pickup lunch, and support them in anyway possible.

“The purpose of human life is to serve, and to show compassion and the will to help others.” — Albert Schweitzer

4) Don’t make assumptions

Assumptions will cause you unnecessary anxiety and kill your performance. If you have questions or concerns, ask. Otherwise, just do the work.

“Anxiety does not empty tomorrow of its sorrows, but only empties today of its strength.” — Charles Spurgeon

5) Keep learning

Read books, blogs, and newsletters. Watch Youtube tutorials, enroll in Skillshare classes, experiment with new software, and follow some of the best thinkers and doers on Twitter. Today you can learn anything online.

For example, an interesting tweet can point to a captivating TED Talk where the speaker references a great book. In that book the author has taken decades of experience and powerfully summarizes the lessons she has learned. In less than two minutes I can buy that book on Amazon.com and start reading. Amazing.

IMPORTANT: No one is going to push you to learn; there has to be a drive from within. In order to remain relevant to your work, you need to remain interested and invested in learning. The notion that one can earn a college degree, coast at work for 40 years, and then retire is dead.

“In times of change learners inherit the earth; while the learned find themselves beautifully equipped to deal with a world that no longer exists.” — Eric Hoffer

6) Admit your mistakes

I make mistakes daily and the sooner I realize and admit my mistakes, the sooner I can make a fix and the team can move on.

Imagine a leader who couldn’t (or wouldn’t) admit their mistakes. Eventually, the team would lose confidence in them because either the leader is blind to their mistakes or too full of pride. Either is a dangerous situation.

“Mistakes are always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them.” — Bruce Lee

7) Take notes

Obsessively keep track about how to improve your process and output the next time. Consult those notes often. Evernote has been the best option for me to keep all my notes accessible and searchable.

“I gotta take notes when things occur to me.”— Jeff Bridges

8) Stay present

When focused and in the moment, you work smarter. When distracted by the past or future, you limit the brain power available to you for the present moment, which handicaps you from making the best decisions now.

Don’t spend your time and energy obsessing over the past or future. Why? Because you can’t do a damn thing about it.

“Most humans are never fully present in the now, because unconsciously they believe tha tthe next moment must be more important than this one. But then you miss your whole life, which is never not now.” — Eckhart Tolle

9) Over deliver

Gain a reputation as someone who over delivers on every project. If you only do the minimum, don’t expect better opportunities.

“The reason a lot of people do not recognize opportunity is because it usually goes around wearing overalls looking like hard work.” — Thomas Edison

10) Check your web links constantly

Almost daily I find people and companies I highly respect using dead or outdated links. Did you try blogging but gave it up three years ago? Then remove the link from your website. I’d rather not see a blog than a rarely updated one.

Randomly test a few links every day on your personal and company websites and social accounts. If you spot something that doesn’t look right, speak up.